Merge into your authentic self and live the life you want.
-Morgan B. Holland
Being your authentic self can be hard in certain circumstances or with certain people. With work, the hope is that it gets easier for you to be authentically you in any and all situations. I know, easier said than done, right? Start with being comfortable in your own body and with enjoying your own company when you’re alone. Journaling can also be a great way to get to know your inner world better at this stage in your life.
Here’s what to come in this blog: why we grow apart from other people, why we lose touch with our authentic selves, and wrapping up with self-care ideas to help you reconnect with your true self.
Why we grow apart from other people:
- They are jealous or envious of you and the life you’re living
- A change in values and morals from our own
- Too much criticism and judgment about your life
- Moving away physically or emotionally from one another
- You lose yourself and who you are in this relationship
- Different interests as you both grow, mature and change
- A lack of trust in the relationship
- You see their true colors and don’t like what you see or how this makes you feel
- They don’t have good intentions or your best interests at heart
- They don’t appreciate the authentic you and who you really are as a person
What else would you add here?
Why we lose touch with our authentic selves:
- Following societal expectations at the expense of ourselves
- Avoiding judgment and criticism because we can’t stay in the discomfort of our feelings
- We’re outwardly focused not inwardly focused
- To fulfill familial roles and what’s expected of us from our family members
- People pleasing and putting other people’s wants and needs above our own
- To fit in with the crowd
- To meet parental expectations of us
- We minimize our own wants and needs or don’t even have awareness around our own wants and needs
- We put other people first, before ourselves
- Work place constraints and possible worries about job loss if we’re our true selves at work
What else would you add here?
Self-care to help you reconnect with your true self:
- Journaling- written or digital
- Therapy- find a therapist you connect with on a deeper level
- Go outside- breathe in the fresh air and look at the beauty all around you
- Mindfulness- focus on being in the present moment and your five senses
- Exercise- move your body!
- Listen to a podcast or audio book to help you get more in tune with yourself
- Meditation- focus on your breath
- Eat healthy for your body
- Focus on creativity
What else helps you reconnect with your true self?
If you’re struggling in life right now, know that you’re not alone. Many of us are struggling to reconnect with our true selves. If you could use more help and support, please reach out to your doctor or a therapist in your area. Know that I’m thinking of you and sending lots of love and compassion your way.
