There are no friends and no enemies, only teachers.
-Charlotte Maloney
Do you ever see emotional immaturity in your partner? What about emotional immaturity in yourself? How about emotional maturity in yourself and others? Relationships are often hard work. Add in times when we may feel triggered and regress back into our younger selves, and it can be very hard to connect with others. Therapy can be a great place to dive deeper into this pattern in your own relationship, either individually or as a couple.
In this blog I’ll be passing on some short, quick information on: traits of emotionally mature partners, traits of emotionally immature partners, and self-care for when you’re deal with difficult people in life. Read on for more!
Emotionally mature partners often:
- Take responsibility for their actions and behavior
- Have deep and meaningful discussions with their partners and other people
- Stay calm, centered and grounded in their body
- Engage in hard conversations with their partners and other people
- Do their own work in therapy
- Give back to their partners
- Heal their past trauma for themselves, but also so they don’t pass this on to the next generation
- Prioritize self-care
- Self-reflect
- Fight fair with their partners
What else would you add to this list?
Emotionally immature partners might:
- Not self-reflect
- Be very self-centered
- Avoid hard conversations with their partners and other people
- Refuse to do their own work in therapy
- Be stuck in unresolved trauma
- Blame you and others for their problems
- Name call and not fight fair in arguments
- Keep conversations on a surface level only
- Be overly reactive and throw adult tantrums
- Drain your energy because of their neediness
What else would you add here?
Self-care for when you’re dealing with difficult people in your life:
- Feel your feelings
- Move your body
- Find a great mantra or affirmations
- Practice the pause!
- Give yourself a hug
- Find a great therapist to help you do the work
- Practice mindfulness by focusing on your five senses
- Listen to your favorite music
- Do things that help you feel strong from the inside out
- Take deep, cleansing breaths
What other types of self-care would you add here that help you when you’re dealing with difficult people in your own life?
If you’re currently struggling in your relationship, especially if it’s with an emotionally immature partner, know that you’re not alone. Please reach out to you doctor or a therapist in your area if you could use more help and support at this time. Know that I’m thinking of you and that I’m sending lots of love and compassion your way!
