Every good relationship, especially marriage, is based on respect. If it’s not based on respect, nothing that appears to be good will last very long.
-Amy Grant
Relationships sure are hard work. That being said, it’s so important to have awareness around what’s working in your current relationships, and what needs to be changed and worked through to make it healthier and to work better for both of you. These can be your romantic relationships, as well as family relationships, friendships, relationships at work with coworkers, etc.
If this topic interests you (and as always, I hope that it does!), please read on for short, actionable tips about emotionally safe relationships, emotionally unsafe relationships and self-care to help with emotional disconnection in relationships.
Let’s start with the traits often found in emotionally safe relationships:
- Understanding
- Empathy
- No judgment
- Active listening
- Trust
- Openness, honesty and vulnerability
- Love
- Eye contact
- Support
- Compassion
- No criticism
- A gentle tone
- Connection
- Optimism and positivity
What else would you add to the above list?
Emotionally unsafe relationships may include:
- Jealousy
- Criticism
- Yelling and arguing
- A harsh tone
- Intentionally trying to hurt the other person’s feelings
- Passive aggressive behavior
- Judgment
- A lack of vulnerability, openness and honesty
- Distrust
- Name calling
- Negativity and pessimism
- Ignore your partner
What else would you add here?
Self-care to help with emotional disconnection in relationships:
- Book a therapy session
- Listen to your favorite music
- Meditate
- Connect with family and friends
- Watch a show
- Read
- Write about your feelings in a journal
- Focus on mindfulness
- Go for a walk
What other types of self-care help you when you’re struggling with emotional disconnection?
If you’re struggling in one or more of your relationships right now, know that you’re not alone. Relationships can be really difficult. It can be helpful to reach out to your doctor or a therapist in your area for more support. Know that I’m thinking of you and sending lots of love and compassion your way.
