The more you value yourself, the healthier your boundaries are.
– Lorraine Nilon
Oh boundaries, everyone’s favorite topic, right? I love this quote because I feel like boundary setting and valuing yourself go hand in hand. Plus, the more you respect and value yourself, often the more you’re able to respect and value others. So, when they set boundaries with you, the hope is you’re able to come from a healthy place where you can thank them for letting you know their boundaries and limits versus getting defensive or even pushing back on these boundaries to see if you can mold them to your own wants and needs (a not so healthy response).
Read on for some short, quick information on: boundary setting on social media, boundary setting phrases, and wrapping up with why boundary setting matters.
Boundary setting on social media:
- Ask yourself, “I wonder what the back story is here, and what this picture isn’t showing about their lives”
- Be intentional about you reasons for being on social media before you log on
- Set time limits, and even set a times if needed
- One of my favorites, ask yourself, “is this helpful to my healing?”
What else would you add to this list?
Boundary setting phrases:
- Sorry but I’m not able to help with that
- I already have plans that day/night
- Let me get back to you on that
- Let me discuss it with my partner first
- No
- Thanks for asking, but I’m not interested
- Give me an hour and I can help you then
- That day/time doesn’t work for me, but I could do this day/time
- I don’t have time right now
- I need to go, talk to you soon
What else would you add here?
Why boundary setting matters:
- Helps you check in with yourself first
- Creates time for self-care
- Feel centered and grounded
- Shows you value your wants and needs
- Can lower emotional reactivity
- Help you prioritize what’s more important
- Creates space to receive help from others
- More energy in your life
- Creates space for emotional connection
- Shows you love and care about yourself
- Help you feel like yourself again
Anything else you’d add to this list from your own experiences?
If you’re struggling to set boundaries in your life right now, know that you’re not alone. Many of us struggle here, especially if we also struggle with our own internal worth and value. If you could use more help and support, please reach out to your doctor or a therapist in your area. Know that I’m thinking of you and sending lots of love and compassion your way!
