When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.
-Diane Von Furstenberg
Do you ever feel like you don’t matter? Or feel like your wants and needs get ignored or minimized? This can be an external issue that you’re dealing with in your relationships with others, often toxic, emotionally immature or unhealthy people. This can also be an internal issue that you’re needing to process, work through and ultimately overcome yourself.
If this topic interests you, and I sure hope it does, please read on for more short, quick information on: ways people can make you feel like you don’t matter, why you may feel like you don’t matter internally, and self-care to help stabilize self-worth and self-love within you.
Ways people can make you feel like you don’t matter:
- Not fully trusting you
- Cancelling plans, especially when it’s last minute or without a valid reason
- Not valuing your time and energy
- Purposely leaving you out of planned events
- Not respecting your boundaries
- Saying disrespectful things to you or about you
- Not remembering important dates like birthdays and anniversaries
- Judging and criticizing your life choices
- Not remembering important conversations that you’ve had in the past
What else would you add to this list?
Why you may feel like you don’t matter internally:
- You may be struggling with a mental health issue like depression, grief, anxiety, etc.
- Your inner critic is super loud right now
- You struggle with finding self-love with in you
- You judge your own life choices and decisions
- You struggle with feelings of low self-value
- You put other people’s wants and needs before your own wants and needs
- You feel emotionally disconnected from others, and may even feel lonely in some/all of your relationships
- You don’t prioritize what’s most important to you in life
What else would you add here?
Self-care to help stabilize self-worth and self-love:
- Find a great therapist in your state
- Write in a journal
- Allow time and space to feel your feelings
- Meditate
- Exercise
- Practice mindfulness and focus on your five senses and being where your feet are
- Connect with loved ones
- Spend time with your pets
- Come up with a great mantra to remind you to focus on what’s most important like, “you are worthy”
- Read books that focus on feeling good from the inside out
What other types of self-care help you when you’re struggling with self-worth and self-love?
If you’re currently working towards stabilizing self-worth and self-love within you, know that you’re not alone. Please reach out to your doctor or a therapist in your area (if you don’t already have one) for more help and support. Know that I’m thinking of you and sending you lots of love and support!