Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.
As moms, we can be so very hard on ourselves, especially in the pursuit of perfection. Perfectionism:
- Is often based in anxiety and fear
- Creates a burnout cycle because our lives will never be perfect enough
- Likes to be in control
- Is an image of how you wanted/expected motherhood to be
- Breaking this cycle often starts with taking a step back to figure out what truly matters in your life
It’s not an easy process to become a “recovering perfectionist,” but it’s important as a postpartum mom, because perfectionism can rob you of the joy of simply spending quality time with your baby.
- Moving to a place of accepting what is can help you when imperfection shows up. (Remember, those clothes don’t need to be folded immediately, if at all!).
- Self-compassion can also be beneficial so you’re not as hard on yourself
One of the most difficult parts of becoming a mom can be embracing the chaos of it all. However, when we embrace the messiness of motherhood, it allows us to be more present (not perfect) more present moms. We can embrace “good enough.”
You get to see, hear and understand what’s really going on all around you:
- The joy
- The excitement
- The humor
- And yes, any hurt and pain too.
So, remember this mantra: Progress Over Perfection!