There is no perfection, only beautiful versions of brokenness.
-Sharon L. Alder
How are you doing these days? We’re getting ready to move back into our house after living overseas for two years. We’re all so ready for this move after living in a small apartment for the past four months, while we waited (semi patiently) for our household goods to arrive. That being said, I have been busy with move prep. That got me thinking about busyness as a coping strategy and a way of doing life, versus something you just have to get through because it’s a short-term issue. I’ve also noticed some perfectionism creeping in around doing this move perfectly (ugh!). And, at times feeling like I’m taking up too much space with my asks around needing extra time for self-care to keep myself as centered and grounded as possible during this transition. Is any (or maybe all?) of this relatable to your own life today?
Read on for some short, quick information on: where feeling like you’re too much or not enough may stem from, things deeper issues underneath busyness may include, and ways to quiet down perfectionism.
Feeling like you’re too much or not enough may stem from:
- Narcissistic parents
- Gender roles in society
- Past trauma
- Modeled by your parents
- A mental health issue
- Perfectionism
- Familial roles
- Not feeling like you’re worthy and enough
- Struggles with self-love
What else would you add here?
Deeper issues underneath busyness may include:
- Not feeling worthy or like you’re enough
- Relationship problems
- Unfulfilled needs
- No clear boundaries
- Not feeling close to your kids
- No work-life balance
- Unfulfilled wants
- Grief and loss
- Disconnection from others
- Feelings you’re trying to numb
What else would you add to this list?
Ways to quiet down perfectionism:
- Prioritize self-care
- Talk to a counselor
- Take breaks
- Find a hobby that’s fulfilling
- Set clear boundaries
- Emotionally connect with others
What else helps you to quiet down perfectionism in your own life?
If you’re struggling right now, know that you’re not alone. Many of us, including me, are struggling with things like having too much to do and not enough time in the day to finish it all. If you need more help and support, please reach out to your doctor or a therapist in your area. Know that I’m thinking of you and sending lots of love and compassion you way!
