
Before you were conceived, I wanted you. Before you were born, I loved you. Before you were here an hour, I would die for you. This is the miracle of Mother’s Love.
-Maureen Hawkin
Don’t you just love this quote? It’s all based in love, right from the start! The new born baby stage, especially if you’re a first-time mom, can bring up a myriad of feelings for us all. Know that this is normal, and allowing time and space to feel all of these feelings can be very helpful. This can be an important part of mental health healing during this time of transition in your life. In this blog, we’ll dive into the baby blues, when your baby isn’t meeting milestones, and grief that can show up in this transition to motherhood. Read on for more!
The baby blues occurs during the first two weeks of postpartum. The baby blues may show up because of a number of different reasons, including:
- Hormonal changes
- Lack of sleep
- Stress in the home
- Feeling lonely and isolate
- Financial worries
- Health issues
- Transitioning to your new mom role
What else would you add to this list?
When you baby isn’t meeting milestones, right after birth or throughout postpartum, you may feel:
- Sad
- Unsupportive
- Misunderstood
- Judged
- Left out
- Grief
- Disconnected from others
- Angry and frustrated
- Confused
- Anxious
- Lonely and isolated
Are there any other feelings you’d add to this list?
**Please reach out to your doctor or a therapist in your area if you’re struggling right now. You don’t need to do this alone!
Finally, remember that becoming a mom can bring up feelings of grief, even if this transition is generally going well.
This grief might include:
- Relationship changes
- Expectations not matching reality
- Physical body changes
- The birth not going as expected
- Sleep changes
- Career changes
- Breastfeeding being difficult
- Friendship changes
- The lack of alone time
- No time for self-care
What else would you add to this list?
The transition into motherhood can be a difficult one, made more difficult if your baby isn’t meeting expected milestones. You may also be struggling with the baby blues during the first two weeks postpartum, mild for some, moderate for others, and severe for some new moms as well. Many of us, myself included, have some feelings of grief during the transition into motherhood. It’s important to acknowledge and feel all of your feelings during this time.
If your struggling right now because of the baby blues, your baby not meeting expected milestones, experiencing grief during this transition into motherhood, or anything else, please reach out to your doctor or a therapist in your area for more help and support. Know that you’re not alone and you don’t need to do the work alone either. I’m sending lots of love and support your way as you navigate the new baby stage in your own life!